It is no secret that divorce can be a difficult and emotionally charged process. If you are considering divorce or are in the midst of one, you may be wondering how to make the process as smooth and amicable as possible.
Here are five tips to keep things amicable during divorce mediation:
1. Strong Network of Support
One of the best ways to maintain a positive attitude and outlook during divorce mediation is to have a strong network of support. This could include friends, family, your attorney, or a therapist. These individuals can provide you with emotional support and practical advice when needed, helping you keep your priorities in check and not get caught up with a combative ex.
2. Prioritize Everyone’s Well-Being
During divorce mediation, it is important to remember that there are two sides to every story. While you may have your own interests and goals, it is also important to consider the needs of your spouse and children. You may have feelings o, sadness, betrayal, anger, or grief, and it’s likely the other party is experiencing similar emotions. By keeping everyone’s well-being in mind, you can help foster a more amicable and cooperative divorce mediation process.
3. Be Open to Negotiation
One of the key aspects of divorce mediation is negotiation. If both parties are open to compromise, it can go a long way in reaching an agreement that works for everyone. It is important to be flexible and willing to consider different options, even if they are not your first choice. By being open to negotiation in good faith, you can create a more positive and productive mediation experience and potentially avoid a lengthy and costly court battle.
4. Keep Respect at the Core
Throughout the divorce mediation process, it is important to maintain a level of respect for your spouse. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they say or do, but rather that you should approach the situation with civility and an open mind. Mediators can help facilitate respectful conversation, but it is up to the parties involved to make a conscious effort to avoid name-calling, put-downs, and other disrespectful communication.
5. Speak As You Would In Front of Your Children
If you have children, they will likely be affected by your divorce. As such, it is important to be mindful of how you communicate with your spouse around your children. You should take a similar approach during mediation, communicating as if your children were in the room. Avoid using offensive language or making derogatory statements, as this can cause further emotional damage. Instead, try to speak as you would in front of them, with respect and compassion.
Mediation: Settle Out of Court Without Attorney Involvement
In many cases, it is possible to reach a settlement without involving attorneys through mediation. This can save you time, money, and stress, and can help keep things amicable between you and your spouse. If both parties are willing to negotiate in good faith, it is often possible to come to an agreement that works for everyone. However, if mediation is not successful or you feel like you need more legal assistance, you can always consult with an attorney.
No matter what, remember that you are not alone in this process. There are resources and professionals available to help you through divorce mediation, so don’t hesitate to reach out for support when needed. Natalie Baird-King is a skilled and experienced mediator that has helped countless divorcing couples reach agreeable settlements. To get started with mediation today, reach out to schedule a virtual appointment.